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mandysmesmerism

January 26, 2023

Part 4: The clouds Mighty cotton balls floating in the skies. Obeying the law of direction. In synchronization with each other. Just moving. In a calm slow speed. Bringing beauty to the blue sky.. The mighty cotton balls floating high. When i see the clouds, i admire their submission. Although it is our planet thats […]

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October 30, 2022

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Fear. It couldbe anything. Fear of trying on something new. Fear of a new job. Fear of giving a relationship a name. Fear of improving yourself. Fear. It arises out of uncertainty of results that haunt us. Will I succeed? Will I be able to handle failure if it comes? Am i doing the right thing? Lucille Ball, the famous American comedienne once said, “I’d rather regret the things I have done than the things I haven’t done.” It takes a lot to jump to the other side of fear. To go through the fire of emotions, the what ifs and suspicions. It is easy to say go ahead, try, so what if u fail… But that one step could really take a week or month or even years. But do we really have that much time to sit and ponder upon. Life is brief and the time runs fast. So take that leap. Shut up your mind. Only feed it positive thoughts. Just do it. That something, however small you wanted to do but never dared to. Jump in. Learn. Fall. Rise again. Trust me it is worth it.

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September 28, 2022

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Dissapointments can be looked at in a good way.

Today we had been to an event to witness the FIFA 2022 trophy at one of the Arabian souqs here in Qatar. We stood in the queue like thousand others only to be told “times up. Better luck next time.” It was a 3 hour event and number of people exceeded the number of hours […]

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May 9, 2022

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Not knowing how to cook especially after marriage is one of the most horrendous of all other discomforts you go through. And more when you have ample amount of taunts coming your way from the sisters in law mothers in law and all the possible people related to you only by law. I did not know much cooking when i got married since i was a working woman. Right after college I was working and all I could cook was a basic meal. But whenever there would be biryani or butter chicken or dosa or medu vada sambar being cooked in the home after marriage I would get a scrumptious bite of tantrums from the women in law about how I was of no help and also loads of bragging about how they knew and I did not. I was learning slowly but that did not count. It would hurt. I would feel so left out and clueless in the kitchen that it killed my apetite for food. I kept feeling like i am eating without any efforts put in. But i sit down and think. The teacher who is teaching my child right now in school as i write this does not have time to cook lunch. Coz common sense! She is in school from 7 am to 1pm. There may be few who cook before the sun rises and then rush to school. But isnt it too much to ask. My family doctor, my dentist, my office going neighbor does not have time to cook and hence they have help. The helping lady cooks for the household and the rest manage their routines. But when the women in law do not like having outsiders come and cook for you and expect your working daughter in law to know how to cook biryani and A complete breakfast each day, it is ridiculous. Now after 8 years of being at home and raising my kids there is no more fear of the kitchen. The circumstances life throws at you train you well they do! Thanks to my fast learning skill (which i am immensely proud of and will brag about) and thanks to the internet too. Cooking isn’t rocket science. But the ladies who are related to you by law find a lot of solace in putting you down and showing you how you cannot do what they can.. But hello!!!! Can they work like you can. They have been at home forever by choice and hence the situation demands they know the kitchen better than you. So respect the working woman. Give her good vibes when she returns home tired and do not make her feel .. ‘Aa gayi bana banaya khane’ . OR… ‘Kitchen mein kitni garmi hai, jo khana banata hai wahi jaanta hai’. Today when i cook gulab jamun or neer dosa or biryani or fish curry or idli sambar, i cannot help think how i felt when i wasn’t the one cooking. It is a feeling of guilt combined with helplessness and eventually hate for yourself.. All the present ladies in law and future ones too.. Think before you pass judgements and dont be a shallow soul. 🙂

mandysmesmerism

April 11, 2022

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Extraordinary is not normal. It is not regular.. It is not ordinary.. It is extra and hence the need for a specialized vision, an urge to be the best. Being extraordinary is not being lonely at the top. One can be extraordinary and be among the ones who are not…. serving as an example and also pulling them up from their mediocre achievements to something higher. The message is… Do not stop at yourself. Be extraordinary and create more people to be like you.

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March 24, 2022

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Far into the mind

Woke up at 5am. Desperately wanted some tea.no milk in the refrigerator. Picked up my jacket and keys.drove to the nearest supermarket. On the way all just so abnormally silent.no people,no cars,no nobody on the streets. Shops open but no one in there. No vehicles,no strays ,no early morning rush. Still drove my car. All […]

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December 13, 2021

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Thoughts. How fast they keep coming and they don’t stop. Thoughts are like a flowing river forever flowing into our minds. So much that when you are trying to sleep you can never empty your mind off the thoughts. I wonder how does one think nothing. I tried a few times but couldnt. Tried not […]

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November 9, 2021

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Clutter oh clutter!

Walking through the rooms of my home I see this and i see that Too many sandals, too many clothes, and a useless stuffed cat I wonder do i really need all this? Why have i let this be? Why have i let things crowd my space? Clutter clutter everywhere , cant i truly see? […]

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October 1, 2021

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