I always dreamt of being a flight attendant right from the college days. Then after college and two failed attempts, I fulfilled my dream to ride the skies… Did so for 14 long years. Then left my job because folks back home did not want me to continue flying with two kids at home. Never wanted to sit idle so completed my Masters in Human Resources . Cracked Labour law in first attempt. Then moved to a new country with husband and kids. Now, here I am. Home, managing the house, the meals and the kids. I am a full time, home staying mom or whatever trending term it has today.
Through all this, I realized acceptance is key. Life might take you from one road to another, one street to another, one place to another. However our state of mind plays a pivotal role . Yes offcourse when I had to give up on my dream job, it hurt. It did. For months I was clueless about what next. After all the studying and upgrading myself in view of getting a job again , I am still home. I am doing what’s best for me in the current times. I have no clue if I will ever go to work again. But for now I have acceptance in my mind and that is saving me from feeling any kind of regret.
Once acceptance makes home in your mind, life can be good. Do not confuse it with lethargy or giving up easily. There is a thin line between the two. Acceptance allows you to calm down. It prepares you, not only to face what’s in front of you but also gears you up for any situation that might arise in future. Many circumstances in our lives are beyond our control. If we try going in the opposite direction than the one that life has for us , it can lead to regrets and frustration on the road ahead.
Like author Michael Gellert said, TRUE HAPPINESS IS AN ACCEPTANCE OF LIFE AS IT IS GIVEN TO US WITH ITS DIMINISHMENT, MYSTERY, UNCONTROLLABILITY AND ALL.
In the current scenario, when we are struggling with a calamity, it is very important to breed the seeds of acceptance in our minds. Many of us lost our jobs, are not getting paid on time, our businesses have come crashing down, our friends and family are far off and some of us lost our dear ones to this calamity. There is uncertainty and hope is bleak. Things don’t seem to be getting back to normal anytime soon.
Is this in our control? It never was. It never will be. So let’s just accept. And not crash our minds and souls thinking life is over, It has nothing more to offer. Let acceptance be the only way to calm. Let acceptance be the only way to let the storm pass. Then our minds can function towards whats next. Good times will return. Till then it’s key to keep ourselves sane.
I remember reading a beautiful quote on acceptance by J. K. Rowling. It said.. UNDERSTANDING IS THE FIRST STEP TO ACCEPTANCE AND WITH ACCEPTANCE COMES RECOVERY.
I lost my job, did a double graduate and stayed at home.. Things did not go as planned. But today as I write this I am helping my 14 year old with his math and he says, “Mom! you explain better than anybody else.”I am thrilled to hear that. I am helping my 6 year old with her school project and she is excited to have mom paste the chimney of the house she made.
I am excited too. It took me time to get acceptance to be my friend.. It did… Bad times last. They do. But good times return too and with acceptance and a will to get back on our feet, we can enjoy this one life we have. And that is all that matters..
Wish the world a happier morning soon. Till then I put on my glasses, my thinking cap and dig into the complicated formulae of math.., telling myself I can do this… When else will I put my degrees to use… 😜😜