Flying. 

Life is about giving back to this world in your own small way as long as you have your time here.Therefore each of us is destined to be someone.. a doctor,an engineer ,a businessman ,a businesswoman,a teacher ,a speaker ,a technician,a plumber and the list goes on.Each of them have their own way of giving back to the society we live in.Some in form of services and some in form of developing others to be better human beings.

I had decided early out of high school that I would be a flight attendant.Though it had been an attractive career choice for decades,it still remained difficult for many to fit into the shoes of a flight attendant..That made the profession even more sought after..At the same time there were many who detested my choice saying I wanted to be a flight attendant  only to enjoy the wild glamorous world of aviation and in the bargain tarnish my image of being a good ,simple and sweet  girl in the neighborhood.

I was aghast at how many assumptions and impressions were carved on peoples’ minds regarding flying as a career.They only looked at it as wearing short skirts ,bright lipstick and honey trapping the pilots in order to enjoy life that revolved around Rolex,Louis Vuitton and Versace..

No one ever gave it a thought that flying is a great way to give back to the society….Yeah ,u may ask…And how is that?In what way?

When I chose flying it wasn’t because I would get to wear a dazzling uniform , bright make up and look good.It was because I always thought I could share kindness,care and humility with the people I would fly.Also i wasn’t attracted by the destinations i would fly to.I always put my rest first whenever I flew long haul, although seeing almost every country in the world is one of the many priceless perks of flying.

I had always been a quiet,shy and a closed individual at heart.I would always think that people are making an impression about me as I am talking to them.So i wouldn’t say much and choose to be shut.That way they would only know me on the outside and never judge me as a person..I was petrified of being judged ,of being labelled as dumb or boring or just an average  kid or anything of that sort.

Flying gave me an opportunity to open myself to people without the fear of being judged.You just had those few minutes or may be those few hours on a long haul to connect to someone and then never see them again..But these few moments of courteous and genuine conversation created a positive aura around you and the guest .It was such a wonderful feeling that I could make a connection with a complete stranger, make him comfortable, get to know him or her a little and converse about how life treated us in our own ways..It did break the ice but most importantly it made me feel confident,valued, grateful and content.

When guests board your aircraft and you are standing at the door greeting them ,it is easy to notice that every mind climbing up the step ladder or the aerobridge is preoccupied with something.Someone on a vacation is hoping all goes well,someone on a business trip is mentally rehearsing his or her presentation,an old parent flying to see their child is already thinking how much he or she will be missing them once they have to fly back…..There are endless thoughts that I can list here.Each of them carry a psychological baggage which is much heavier than the one in their hands.

In your role as a flight attendant you have the power to ease their psychological baggage during the few hours of flight and in the bargain get to know them a little better.Sure  sometimes many of these small conversations result into lifelong friendships and even sometimes a very special bond between you two…But mostly it is just a healthy conversation that you and the guest enjoy and the latter feels much lighter and relaxed when he alights the plane a while later.

Flying gave me many  such opportunities and endless wonderful conversations .Some with normal people like you and me,some with famous celebrities (and it surprised me to know how they faced problems similar to ours in their daily lives),some with very old citizens who could paint their canvas called life so beautifully and also some guests who were ill and but had not given up on life .
What you give back to the society as a flight attendant is this tender touch of emotion and a heartfelt concern towards the people you fly with.It is magical how they respond when they see that motherly care in your eyes and submit themselves to you like a child wanting more from his mother.

I had a guest tell me once that he never spoke so much at length or so openly to anyone in his life before and that in those few minutes his perspective of life had changed.He said to me “you have a positive aura around you which I can feel when we are speaking.”I did not quiet understand what that means but I was wondering how lonely can people be..He was living alone all his life away from his busy parents and he always felt that void ,so could never make friends or could never speak his mind out to anyone.He just went on with life like it was a formality.

Conversations on flight can begin over anything.Over food,over the temperature,over the reason for travel and then  when things take off from there ,you get to know how different people live their lives differently . If you are able to share their joys and sorrows and also talk about your struggles and achievements, it is a wonderful human touch that you are leaving on his or her mind which will go a long way ,thus making you feel happy and connected..After all ,stranger or friend we all belong to one race called the human race and we all go through our lives wanting support ,love and a hand to hold.

Today I am not flying anymore and I miss my passion more than words can say but I am so filled with gratitude for the millions of words exchanged , the petit conversations and the magical memories i made along with my guests..They became my extended family …And the aircraft my second home…

Truly with flying you give  so much to this society.You share smiles,warmth and help people find comfort speaking to a complete stranger and it is astonishing how someone could open up to you, which he or she wouldn’t if you met him or her on the streets or in a park ,just jogging besides you.

Fly…

Fly like the bird no worries,no why

Fly ,spread your wings ,don’t be shy

Fly,through the clouds ,through the endless sky

Fly….Just fly…….Just fly….Just fly!

I asked life…..

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I thought I’d make friends with life

So I asked her to introduce herself,

What did she do? ,How did she look?

And did she come with a rulebook?

I said to life,”will you always be my friend?”

She looked dazed with  pale look on her face

She said she would love to be good to me

But then,how would I learn and be strong,said she.

I said to life,”Be a friend and walk along.”

She said,”I am always there in your sorrow and song”

I pleaded to life,”Why must you be rough?”

She replied,”Dont fret it dear,life is tough.”

Life said its upto us how we look at her

With  smile and hope or with a mind full of fear ,

She said she is a journey with ups and downs

Milestones we conquer and sometimes shaky grounds.

Life said she is a teacher,she lets you choose,

Whether you follow the rules or let yourself loose

Life says nothing ,she only passes by

As you lie in the woods ,wondering why.

 

Few life lessons from desperate housewives…….

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I recently happened to have an addiction to a TV show that aired sometime ago on American television.Yes…Desperate Housewives.

All my years when i was a working woman,i neither had the time nor the inclination to be on social media or see television or visit the theatre or anything related .Simply because it was just home and work for me.I had no time or the strength to follow episode after episode of a TV show or even go watch a movie.

So now when i was desperate enough as a housewife ,i came across this show on a video subscription i paid for.And before i knew i was hooked on to it .Speaking psychologically,there is so much to learn from these women.Though all of them are not perfect as women,each of them has something that is a part of us.Every character has a trait that is our trait too and when it shows up we are like ,”Ohh!i feel the same way.this is me.”

So today i want to pen down certain life lessons learnt from these lovely ladies that we must incorporate into our lives too.

Felicity Huffman as Lynette Scavo:———–Lynette’s traits: a mother of 5, a full time mom,a loving wife,a control freak and a lady who likes raising her kids to be responsible adults.What i learn from Lynette is ,as mothers we may sometimes take our children for granted,sometimes we may be able to do nothing about the decisions they take and sometimes we may just need to nod our heads and listen to them.As a mom,a wife ,a daughter in law you become a punching bag of sorts for everybody’s emotions and no matter how much of a talk you want to give to your kids ,husband or your in laws ,they may not always be interested.On the contrary as you try to correct and control them ,they erupt like the Kilauea volcano in Hawaii leaving you all burnt and disgusted.So to other desperate housewives you may seem like you are in control , but deep inside you know things are way too haphazard when it comes to family.And that is alright!! Yes it is!None of us are perfect you see!

Teri Hatcher as Susan Delphino:——————Susan’s traits:sexy ,a romantic at heart,a doting mother,a loving wife and also a go getter.When i see Susan i like her never give up attitude.whether it is a financial crunch or a woman trying to steal her man she will go to any limits to save her family and keep it together.It is not easy when your man is the center of attraction for another woman.It is never an easy affair.Here the trust between you and your man proves to be an electric fence around him that no other woman can trespass.Also what I learn from Susan is when you need to provide a helping hand to run your family ,you do what it takes.It may turn out to be a risky job sometimes and not all jobs offer you security and peace of mind , nevertheless they bring in the money.(however please do not read ‘ANY JOB’here ..Only those jobs that keep your dignity and character intact.and yes, always keep your partner in the loop about what you are up to).Susan also taught me that home is where the heart is.It is only in your home that you feel in place and at peace.

Marcia Gross as Bree Van de kam:————-Bree’s traits: hardworking,a bit self centered,a businesswoman,smart,practical and also a loving mother to her children.Not to forget Bree has always been the little girl on the inside although the numbers may add to her age on the outside.Talking about it ,don’t we all love being the girl we were at 16?Ohh yes we do!Nobody likes being old and acting their age no matter how much their bodies ask them to.We love to look younger,dress younger and feel younger.And that’s how it should be…Age should just be a number to define your time on this planet since you inhabitated it.Talking about being practical, we need to be practical whilst dealing with people whom we come across.You have got to say a no when you feel like saying it and a yes should always be reserved for circumstances that make you happy.You need to feel important from within.You got to be self centered to a limit and value yourself..Or else ,no one else will .

Eva Longoria Parker as Gabriel Solis:—————–Gabby’s traits:she loves her girls,still misses her modelling career,selfish but only for the sake of her family’s interest, hyperactive about raising her children right and a truly helpful friend whenever you need her.when you are born a girl I think the word sacrifice comes attached with the umbilical cord.You may not sacrifice anything all your childhood even when you are a young girl.You may make your career choices,you live your best life and splurge the money you earn on yourself.All this until you fall in love and now one more person is a priority in addition to your own self.So for this love,you sacrifice.Sacrifice your career,move to another town, city or country leaving your family behind,you cook though the thought of kitchen and the heat in there irks you.Yet you do all this…For love.And you may not always be appreciated.You may be questioned about how you raise your children,how you prioritize,how much more time you spend on yourself than your family and how criminal that is.

Not everyone may step into your shoes and see what it feels like .But they are forever at your door with a basket full of freshly baked advice.What i like about Gabriel is she is proud of who she is,proud of her choices,proud of her girls and she does not let anybody let her change that belief.She misses her career once in a while but then she is filled with gratitude when she looks at her family smiling and happy together.When i see Gabriel ,i see myself missing my job,the person I loved to be but yes I also think to myself, tonight I am in bed with my kids by my side and I don’t have to put on make up and rush for a midnight flight across the Atlantic..Sometimes life takes ,sometimes life gives.

I have been learning all my life from people around me and their takes on life.Every single detail on how they deal with circumstances provide me with an insight and a solution.What else do you call life? It is the sum total of people you meet ,experiences you gain and lessons you learn.

So I am sure each of you find a little part of you in these women and yes if you still haven’t come across them,take a look !!!

Who decides your worth!

Who decides your worth ,O lady ?

Who decides your worth?

Is it the man you loved and married

Or the children your body carried

The people you call parents ’cause of law

Or the friends for life who you hardly ever saw

Who decides your worth ,O lady?

Why have you let someone

You were born so precious,so pure

The lord made you perfect, i am sure

The people to whom you gave your life

Your strength,your time,your love,your strife

Are they too quick to judge you here

Ohh Please! Know your worth dear!

We cross the path of life but once

Husband, friends,daughters and sons

They love you ,yes they really do

Yet still ! Your worth is known to no one but you.

A dream called home

This poem is dedicated to all us women who dream of building a home ,have built a home and will build a home of their own in future.Because for a lady there is nothing like a place that she calls her own,decorates it as she would like it to be . A place where she is the master,the host,the One who decides and the one who nurtures .Her nest called HER HOME.

One day i shall sit by the window

lacy curtains ,cookies and coffee

one day i shall build a home so lovely

like the one in my dreams i see.

One day i shall cook a lavish meal

in my kitchen so neat and clean

one day i shall mow the lawn in the frontyard

keeping it blissful like it has always been.

One day i shall have a home, my own

french windows through which the sun has shown

divine light upon me and my beloved

as i smile at the colours the walls have worn.

One day i shall feel complete so much

living in my home,my paradise such

simple and warm,always open to the weary

yet so stylish and wonderful very.

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long distance love

Finding true love.whatever that means.i never found love in a pink box of roses or scented cards or stuffed teddys.Yet i found love.For me love was being around my man right from the first time we met and till the time we got married; and today after a long fourteen years love has still been there .we sense it, just like you sense paranormal activity in your house.It is there.In the room where we sit and chat,in the kitchen where he interupts me constantly when i cook,it is there when he offers to bathe the kids and get them ready to school..i see love…like a ghost.there is no honey and no sweetheart here but yes ,there is love.

So what is love?we found love in each other and married but we never went on a honeymoon.we never felt the need for a destination to express our love .Not that it was difficult financially or for reasons related to work ,but it just did not happen.and we never once regreted not going on a honeymoon.

Not that we are a magical perfect couple related to cupid .we fight.fight hard.we cut all communication between us,only to find ourselves more closer to each other ,spending nights together under the sheets of bliss ,drinking wine when we feel like and in a steel glass and at 3:45 am.That is love.you dont need a backdrop of lit candles,expensive wine glasses ,a sommelier to recommend the best wine…….you just need you two.

Love is daily life where you long to see your beloved after work.Where u wait for him to return from a party he went to ,where u dont keep things ready for his work day tomorrow but keep that smile on your face when he returns home at 4:00 am.Love is giving your partner the space he or she needs.love is being there for each other yet leaving each other alone.

And now after a decade and a half when he has to leave for work to a country far away i am faced with something called long distance love.And yes.I am new to this.Never stayed apart,never lived alone.But in our lives there are many things you never do and then those are the very things you have to do.

Yes,the missing each other part is there.There is also trust and patience and testing times when it comes to missing him physically,feeling the void mentally. No amount of skype and conferencing can do good.

In long distance relationships all you can offer each other as gifts is support and trust.(And yes there is Blue Dart and FedEx and DHL for the material ones) ,there is no helping each other involved here,neither there is “i am cooking a delicious meal for you” option here.Its just seeing each other living their respective lives ,yet interwoven into this emotion called love.

So there are all kinds of love.As the definition of the word quotes;love is the basic emotion of life..Yes it is .And when it is between two wonderful people ,it shines .It shines like a pearl .Pure with its own glow.

So what kind of love you are in?Long distance ,short distance,no distance whatever kind it may be…..Just let it bloom,let it drown you in heaven….Heaven like you experience in the arms of the person you call yours…………..

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